This is a new abstract pastel that illustrates "taking a chance" as I am fairly new to abstract work.
Constructive Conversation, 12 x 9 inches, Pastel, © Lynn Goldstein, $575
June is a tough month for me. The anniversary of my father's death is June 3, with the emotional one-two punch of Father's Day following close behind. Dad died when I was 25 and he was way too young.
Here I am with Dad. If you are unsure, I'm on the left.
It's safe to say that I think of my Dad everyday. I still miss him, but let's not dwell on that.
Instead, I want to share some of my favorite words of advice from him. One of the best tidbits of wisdom that he imparted impacts me to this day in almost everything that I do.
Hope you enjoy this short list. In a hurry? I saved the best for last:
There is NOTHING like dealing with the public.
I think of this every time someone comes into my studio and says something extraordinarily unexpected.
If we can't trust each other, who can we trust?
This was uttered after I had lied to my parents (and was subsequently grounded for what seemed like the rest of my life). Needless to say, this stuck and I became scrupulously honest.
It is natural to hurt when those we love are hurting.
This was something my father said to me when I was about 13 years old. With this sentiment, he cemented my understanding of love, compassion, and empathy. Simple but amazing.
I may be disappointed in something that you do, but I could never be ashamed of you.
Hearing this helped me with my self-esteem in ways that telling me I was perfect (which he did NOT do) ever could. It helped me in my parenting too.
You must make that decision, and I will support you no matter what you choose.
I hear this when I am trying to decide which direction I should take. Even though he isn't around, I imagine his support. Incidentally, and importantly, he never discouraged me from studying art even though I am sure that he had concerns about how I would support myself. I am grateful for that every day.
... And... my absolute favorite:
Don't ever worry about falling in love. You can fall in love in a minute.
This may not sound like great advice at first blush. However, I have applied it to everything in life. My Dad knew that if you put yourself out there, you could meet the person of your dreams in a heartbeat. Same holds true for other opportunities. Good fortune is not likely to present itself if we don't take a chance. This is one of the reasons that I make sure that people see my art even when I am not sure what the response will be. Someone could fall in love with it in a minute and change their day (and mine).
Any good words of advice from your dad? I'd love for you to share in the comments below.
And Happy Father's Day to all the dads out there.